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Overcoming the Difficulties

As much as there are advantages to family and friend care, the positive elements can also bring on difficulties. Having someone who has a close personal relationship with you and your child can make it difficult to establish an employer-employee association. As much as there are advantages to family and friend care, the positive elements can also bring on difficulties. Having someone who has a close personal relationship with you and your child can make it difficult to establish an employer-employee association. There may be times when someone especially if they are of an older generation like parents or grandparents may feel that they have more knowledge and experience raising children than you do. They may ignore some of your desires pertaining to your child’s care and may undermine your authority, which may confuse the child and souring a long time close relationship. Understandably this type of situation needs to be avoided for all involved. It is important to establish clear communication of those desires and be sure that each person understands and is in agreement before the first day care is to commence. Conflict may arise over the payment. This could depending on the circumstances be a dual direction situation. Firstly, it is the parent’s responsibility to compensate the caregiver for their hard work. Payment arrangements and amounts need to be established before the child starts care with the friend or relative. The problems can arise when the parent prioritizes other expenses ahead of the caregiver, and feels that the caregiver will understand and wait for payment, because they are “friends” or “family”. This is the best way to sabotage an ideal childcare arrangement. Keep your childcare fees up to date and keep communication on going regarding the amount of payment. The caregiver may feel with rising costs that she may require additional fees but feels uncomfortable approaching you regarding this, and may secretly be resentful. It is best to offer additional funds through out your arrangement. The second situation arises in the opposite manner which the caregiver doesn’t accept offer of payment because they are a friend or family. This makes you fee uncomfortable and makes you feel like you are taking advantage. This too can make for bitter feelings, feelings of being indebted and puts you in a position less likely to feel comfortable standing up to the caregiver regarding your child’s care. If the caregiver is insistent about not receiving funds in exchange for care, it is best to compensate in other ways. This can be done in many ways; such as gifts, supplying some groceries, giving the caregiver availability for a day to herself and use your backup care, supplying toys and craft materials. This will ease your feeling of indebtedness. It is important to examine the caregiver’s health and age. If an older friend or family member is your caregiver take into account her energy. This could be a negative for both your child and the caregiver. She may have plenty of energy when the child is an infant but as time goes the child will require more energy as they start walking, running and exploring their world. This could tire your caregiver and disadvantage your child by missing out on field trips, walks to the park and high energy playing. It is best to observe your caregiver as your child grows and keep in mind that it may be in everyone’s best interest if the child becomes “hard to keep up” and your caregiver is exhausted by the end of the day to find alternate care. Home \| About Us \| Find Care \| Caregivers \| Membership \| Your Store Site designed, maintained and hosted by Sunergon Information Services

Overcoming the Difficulties

As much as there are advantages to family and friend care, the positive elements can also bring on difficulties. Having someone who has a close personal relationship with you and your child can make it difficult to establish an employer-employee association.

As much as there are advantages to family and friend care, the positive elements can also bring on difficulties. Having someone who has a close personal relationship with you and your child can make it difficult to establish an employer-employee association. There may be times when someone especially if they are of an older generation like parents or grandparents may feel that they have more knowledge and experience raising children than you do. They may ignore some of your desires pertaining to your child’s care and may undermine your authority, which may confuse the child and souring a long time close relationship. Understandably this type of situation needs to be avoided for all involved. It is important to establish clear communication of those desires and be sure that each person understands and is in agreement before the first day care is to commence.

Conflict may arise over the payment. This could depending on the circumstances be a dual direction situation. Firstly, it is the parent’s responsibility to compensate the caregiver for their hard work. Payment arrangements and amounts need to be established before the child starts care with the friend or relative. The problems can arise when the parent prioritizes other expenses ahead of the caregiver, and feels that the caregiver will understand and wait for payment, because they are “friends” or “family”. This is the best way to sabotage an ideal childcare arrangement. Keep your childcare fees up to date and keep communication on going regarding the amount of payment. The caregiver may feel with rising costs that she may require additional fees but feels uncomfortable approaching you regarding this, and may secretly be resentful. It is best to offer additional funds through out your arrangement.

The second situation arises in the opposite manner which the caregiver doesn’t accept offer of payment because they are a friend or family. This makes you fee uncomfortable and makes you feel like you are taking advantage. This too can make for bitter feelings, feelings of being indebted and puts you in a position less likely to feel comfortable standing up to the caregiver regarding your child’s care. If the caregiver is insistent about not receiving funds in exchange for care, it is best to compensate in other ways. This can be done in many ways; such as gifts, supplying some groceries, giving the caregiver availability for a day to herself and use your backup care, supplying toys and craft materials. This will ease your feeling of indebtedness.

It is important to examine the caregiver’s health and age. If an older friend or family member is your caregiver take into account her energy. This could be a negative for both your child and the caregiver. She may have plenty of energy when the child is an infant but as time goes the child will require more energy as they start walking, running and exploring their world. This could tire your caregiver and disadvantage your child by missing out on field trips, walks to the park and high energy playing. It is best to observe your caregiver as your child grows and keep in mind that it may be in everyone’s best interest if the child becomes “hard to keep up” and your caregiver is exhausted by the end of the day to find alternate care.

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